RE: etiquette question: baby shower at restaurant — who pays ? The host/hostess. I’ve been to 3 showers that were held with full meals at restaurants . At two, the host had the menu arranged and covered in advance.
It is considered rude to ask someone to throw you a baby shower . Typically a close friend or one of the grandmas-to-be will throw a baby shower . It is acceptable to have a sister or other family member throw the baby shower .
Who Hosts a Baby Shower? Most baby showers should be hosted by a sister , mother , mother -in-law, or close friend. Baby showers were traditionally thrown by family members who weren’t close with the parents-to-be, to avoid the assumption that close family members wanted to collect gifts for themselves.
A typical baby shower includes playing games, watching the mother-to-be open gifts, eating, and drinking. However, games aren’t a must. Some baby shower hosts and hostesses are foregoing the typical games in favor of other activities. Ask the expecting mother what she thinks about games and what she would like to do !
Depending on the number of guests, the location, the food, and other considerations, a baby shower can easily cost anywhere between $100 to $1000 – and celebrities like Beyoncé have pulled costs up to $500,000!
HELEN’S ANSWER: It is still proper for close friends, co-workers, aunts and cousins to give baby showers for the mother -to-be. A reader shared with me about a mother who hosted a baby shower for her daughter because all of her friends had many wedding showers.
As much as guests would love for the mom-to-be to open their gifts , proper etiquette is respecting her wishes and not asking her to open the presents during the shower . Once one gift is opened, a chain reaction will start and everyone will want theirs opened too.
While traditional baby showers consist of women only, co-ed baby showers are becoming more and more common. However, if you’re looking to throw a traditional baby shower and still have the dad -to-be attend , this is completely acceptable and appropriate as most dad -to-be’s will want to thank guests before they leave.
Who Traditionally Pays for a Baby Shower ? The hostess traditionally pays for the baby shower and its associated costs. However, the hostess can divide up the responsibility and costs by asking a few close family members or friends to co-host.
Simply put: “A sip and see can be described as an intimate gathering or open house, typically hosted by the new mom or parents, to give family and friends the opportunity to meet or ‘ see ‘ their new baby ,” explains Katherine Kommer, lead planner for New York-based Baby Showers Inc.
Best Time of Day for a Baby Shower The classic time to host a baby shower is lunchtime, but recently tradition has given way to several different options. Some women prefer a slightly earlier time to celebrate and enjoy hosting a brunch.
At an open house baby shower , the guests are coming and going so the food is available for guests to eat anytime. After the games, it is again a personal preference, you can either allow your guests to eat and then open presents or open presents first and then eat .
Now some tips for the shower guests. Do not forget to RSVP. Do not forget to show up. Do not forget to include a gift receipt. Do not forget to give clothing in different sizes. Do not forget to match the size with the season. Do not get drunk. Do not give gifts that mom-to-be doesn’t want.
It is customary for the hostess to get the bride a gift for the shower , just like everyone else. You may want to coordinate the buying of a major gift , or you might want to give her something small but very nice just from you if the shower is setting you back financially.